After reading Truth vs. Belief, people had similar questions.
Question: How does someone know that their thinking is off?
The way to tell if your thinking is off is by paying attention to your emotions. Emotions work like traffic signals. Feeling self-righteous, smug, arrogant or having a condescending attitude toward people or ideas that differ from yours, is a blinking red light warning you that you’re missing something. Having such an uncompromising intensity toward your beliefs that you discount anyone who disagrees with you is also a surefire sign that your thinking is off.
Here’s the thing to remember: No matter what you believe, your beliefs and values aren’t any more important than anyone else’s.
Without study, contemplation and growth, peoples beliefs and values come directly from the way that they view their life experience. In the post Truth vs. Belief, neither Linc nor Ana had any question about their truth. The thought that there may be any other aspects to their stories never entered either of their minds. And believing as they did brought them both years of unhappiness.
Question: After reading Truth vs. Belief, I wonder how does a person change their thinking?
The first step is to become of aware of your emotions when you’re thinking or speaking about different topics. Go to the list above and determine if you’re feeling any of the listed emotions.
Then try this meditation:
1. Sit with whatever you’re feeling.
2. Identify your emotion. Name it from the above list or add your own.
3. Don’t try to analyze or justify; identify it and let it go.
4. Focus on your breathing.
5. Focus on the air as you inhale and exhale. Don’t try
to control your breathing, just become aware of it.
In and out.
With practice your breathing will begin to slow and you’ll naturally begin to relax. As you relax the intensity of your emotion will begin to ease and instead of being consumed by it, you’ll recognize it as just a part of you. When your emotions are just a part of you, you have room for new thoughts and feelings. Begin your next meditation using this mantra: I open every cell in my being to see other aspects of …. inserting the issue that you’re facing.
When you recognize that your thinking isn’t serving you and you commit to doing something about it, you’re opening yourself to extraordinary changes in your life. You’ll develop flexibility in your thinking which leads to letting go of stress, becoming a better listener and developing compassion. All of which will lead you to a happier and more fulfilled life.
Great advice! I definitely need to slow down and reflect more!
Our lives are so fast paced, slowing down is one of the hardest things that we can do!
Victoria, another great piece. And I love your meditation technique to take the power out of unwanted emotion– not quite what you said but close. I love the way you think.
Thank you for the kind words, Kebba! “Taking the power out of unwanted emotion” is an excellent way to describe it.
You have given me a lot to think about. I think I need to reread to ensure that I get all the valuable information
Thank you for your open mind, Cheryl.
This explanation is really good. I can’t remember reading anywhere how to know that your thinking is off — especially using emotion as guidance. We’re usually taught to override emotion with thinking and to revise our thinking only with more thinking. This post gives emotion its place as a valuable guide, but without making it the final authority. Excellent insight clearly explained and illustrated.
Thank you, Victoria!
Thank you, Marlo. Sometimes we forget that when we learn to trust ourselves, emotions can be a healthy guiding light.