Whether I’m doing a reading or teaching a class, people often have similar concerns.

These essays answer some of my most frequently asked questions.


Happiness & Communication

    This is part of a series on different aspects of Happiness. Many people come to me because they aren’t happy with an aspect of their life and don’t know how to fix it. Lack of communication may be one reason for unhappiness. Mia is very much in love with…

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      Fear was wired into our DNA, as part of the ‘fight or flight’ warning system. It helped us learn to see ourselves as separate from threats such as a lion or a snake, and when confronted by them, helped us choose appropriate action. These threats have ebbed, but instead of fear also…

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Staying Centered

If your goal is to stay centered and to not let your emotions overwhelm you, just breathe.  In any situation where you’re feeling stressed, angry, insecure or unsure in any way, the best thing to do is to focus on your breathing. No matter how others behave, you have no control over…

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  The dictionary definitions of synchronicity and coincidence are the same: the occurrence of events which are significantly related but have no discernible causal connection.    So what’s the difference? The difference comes from your viewpoint.  If you believe in taking things at face value, in just accepting that what’s…

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The Greatest Gift

  The greatest gift that you can give to anyone is to listen deeply. It doesn’t matter if they’re 2 or in their 90’s, it doesn’t matter what their work situation is or anything else about their life. Everyone wants to feel heard. Alison was trying to interview her uncle…

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What Happens When We Die?

When someone dies there is no “one size fits all” experience. We are each individuals with individual needs. Here are answers to some of the questions that I’ve been asked. What do people experience right after they die if they believe that death is final? To someone who believes that death is…

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Why I Blog

As many of you know, I’ve been a medium since birth. As a child spending time with dead people was completely natural for me. This link will take you to About Victoria, if you would like more background: The dead have access to eons of knowledge and experience, so…

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Questions People Ask Me

Question: Do the dead speak to you or through you? Victoria: When I’m writing the dead speak to me. They feel like a Greek chorus; a group of  people               who with persistence express especially similar views or feelings. They don’t show them-               selves as individuals but as a…

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Intuition Part II

  Alice is Ethan’s second wife. They met three years after his divorce was finalized and it was love at first sight. They were both in their 40s and had enough life experience to know that their connection was something special. His ex vehemently disagreed and did everything possible to…

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